How do you deal with people who just basically get on your last nerve??
You know the type- there's one in every crowd. The one who is rude, abrasive, controlling, even bully-ish(?). Yet when confronted she acts so sweet and innocent and has no idea what you are talking about. What do you do??
Life is short and I really don't want to waste time and energy on feeling irritated and - to be quite honest - having my feelings hurt. But for whatever reason, I always tend to "lose sleep" when these kind of people are in my life. I let them get under my skin. I wish I didn't. But I do.
And what am I to do when there seems to be no way to really "escape" from this person? Our lives are somewhat connected. I need to be a little vague here just in case someone makes the connection.
My husband overheard me talking to this person on the phone. I have complained to him about this person many times. When I got off the phone with her, my husband said, "You need to learn to be rude. She probably thinks you really like her because you were so nice to her on the phone." I replied, "But she was actually really nice just now. I didn't feel like I could be rude."
Not that I would have been rude anyway. It's just so...rude...to be rude. So I was really nice. ?? It doesn't make sense. I know.
So what to do?? I hate confrontation. And I don't really want to be good friends with this person anyway. So what would the point be of confronting her?
So I'll just blog about it. It's so therapeutic. Thanks for listening. You can send me a bill! :)
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Without saying too much, I just had the SAME THING happen with my soon-to-be sister-in-law. These people really do exsist and they DO act sweet when you confront them. You are in the right and karma is a you know what! Kill her with kindness. Is that too harsh?
You need to go watch "You've Got Mail" with Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks. Its been on TBS non stop lately. Anyhow, my favorite line is when they are chatting and he writes
"I must warn you that when you finally have the pleasure of saying the thinkg you mean to say at the moment you mean to say, remorse inevitibly follows"
Kill her with kindness or avoid her at all costs!
Mary Michael...too late!
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